With so many incidents of attacks made on the dignity of women across the country, there are many people writing about it and expressing anger. Blaming men and asking parents to focus on the upbringing of their sons. No matter how much we play the blame game, we ALL need to together build a system that can *prevent* such issues.
Of course it all starts at home. Please have open conversations with your kids (girls and boys). Talk to them about good and bad touches. Have an environment where kids can openly talk about problems related to this and also they should be taught how to respect the opposite sex.
Big responsibility lies on the shoulders of women. Not only can you teach these morals to kids in your family but you can do the same with the kids of your maid/helper/watchmen. I am solely banking on women for this because of the motherly instinct and easy communication with kids. If men can do it too then its great. It's necessary to understand that kids who are not taught morals or principles at a young age tend to grow up and take things for granted. Labourers and maids hardly have any time for their kids and that is the last thing on their mind. Please educate them and their kids. Spend some time once in a month to inculcate the sense of responsibility. Take them along with you to mandir/mosque/church once a year to inculcate values. Think of this as an investment you are making for the safety of your own kids. Any misbehaviour at young age should be immediately attended to. Teachers should also take the responsibility of not ignoring such things and paying special attention to kids who show signs of disrespect to the opposite sex. We all need to be aware that this is a growing problem and the responsibility lies on us. I remember when I was young, a boy on the streets would pass lewd comments on all girls passing by and we would think of him as the dirt you never want to even look at. A grandpa in my society went up to him and casually took him out for tea. Whenever possible he would spend some time with this guy and slowly turned this guy around. Do we ever do this? Have we ever tried to approach the problem in its face? Please don't tell me "why should I waste my time in explaining all these stupid people". Trust me, this is the best investment we can make. A better society exists only when people in it are aware and always working towards it. If we want to spend time outside safely, we need to make sure that the environment is safe. Either we can mark it unsafe and be at home or take the responsibility of making it safe. After all, everyone is a human being and has great capacity. We should definitely push for stringent laws but if you think that a death penalty will scare such monsters then you are wrong. Rather uproot this monster and also think of it this way, you are helping a fellow human being live a better life and that person in turn can help build a better society. I agree that some people are beyond this and nothing can change their hopeless mindset. For such people we will push for the death penalty :)
All I am saying is that, let's try to become an alert society and let's clean the dust ourselves!
Of course it all starts at home. Please have open conversations with your kids (girls and boys). Talk to them about good and bad touches. Have an environment where kids can openly talk about problems related to this and also they should be taught how to respect the opposite sex.
Big responsibility lies on the shoulders of women. Not only can you teach these morals to kids in your family but you can do the same with the kids of your maid/helper/watchmen. I am solely banking on women for this because of the motherly instinct and easy communication with kids. If men can do it too then its great. It's necessary to understand that kids who are not taught morals or principles at a young age tend to grow up and take things for granted. Labourers and maids hardly have any time for their kids and that is the last thing on their mind. Please educate them and their kids. Spend some time once in a month to inculcate the sense of responsibility. Take them along with you to mandir/mosque/church once a year to inculcate values. Think of this as an investment you are making for the safety of your own kids. Any misbehaviour at young age should be immediately attended to. Teachers should also take the responsibility of not ignoring such things and paying special attention to kids who show signs of disrespect to the opposite sex. We all need to be aware that this is a growing problem and the responsibility lies on us. I remember when I was young, a boy on the streets would pass lewd comments on all girls passing by and we would think of him as the dirt you never want to even look at. A grandpa in my society went up to him and casually took him out for tea. Whenever possible he would spend some time with this guy and slowly turned this guy around. Do we ever do this? Have we ever tried to approach the problem in its face? Please don't tell me "why should I waste my time in explaining all these stupid people". Trust me, this is the best investment we can make. A better society exists only when people in it are aware and always working towards it. If we want to spend time outside safely, we need to make sure that the environment is safe. Either we can mark it unsafe and be at home or take the responsibility of making it safe. After all, everyone is a human being and has great capacity. We should definitely push for stringent laws but if you think that a death penalty will scare such monsters then you are wrong. Rather uproot this monster and also think of it this way, you are helping a fellow human being live a better life and that person in turn can help build a better society. I agree that some people are beyond this and nothing can change their hopeless mindset. For such people we will push for the death penalty :)
All I am saying is that, let's try to become an alert society and let's clean the dust ourselves!
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